The “Will or Would” Confusion!

The day I got to know I was using my “Will’s & Would’s” in the wrong places; I was scarred for life!

So I was told something which sounded totally Greek to me!

Would – You don’t mean it…

Will – You mean it…

But then I found an old school book of mine and I realized I had been making this mistake since 1999 O.o

textSo I went and did my own research of how come I never realized my mistake and then finally I accepted the fact the word “would” was being used pretty much wrong by me.

I used to say, “I would do that tomorrow.” Whilst it was supposed to be “I will do that tomorrow”, because the would made it sound that I am just saying it for the sake of saying it. But the -will- affirms that yes I am going to do it!

Sadly, now after all these years of using “wUd wuD Wud”, I have to start re-structuring my sentences with “Will” !

Happy Fatal Valentines!

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So Valentines is just on the corner and it can be quite traumatizing when you suddenly realize all those piles of invisible fat on you- which basically doesn’t exist but for some odd reasons we think our bones are fat!

Just in case you are already traumatized and emotionally drained out, here you go an article I found about weight loss.
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However after the moment of “Fatt-umm Realization” the next horror which we face is what I am going to wear. Like do I have a dress?
But before that, a quick gasp, “Would he even take me out?”
Anyhow let’s keep that horrifying thought for the end; so now we have to have multiple dresses just in case of a “Just in case” moment!

So now we have overcome the fat and somehow plunged it into the dress..
-We need to get that expensive gift to show off how much we care for you dear!-

But be careful men don’t you end up getting a large size when it was supposed to be a medium or if you get the large size and it was supposed to be an x-large, in both ways you are dead! And by doing this you might end up finding yourself in a situation where you won’t be able to “find all your pieces to your corpse.”

Ooo Boy! Too much anxiety.  Anxiety “Anxiety” Bad for health.

Plus let’s have the last minute bonus treat-Pimple! It’s quite a bonus, lolx!

And that happens all because of the anxiety melting down in your head resulting in eating all those chocolates, fat piled up, puffed face and missed saloon appointment! Resulting in; a disastrous down-fall of self-confidence.

Now why self-confidence is important? Is another story but in short without it you are really going to suffer.
… Think of valentines as a territory of wild lions, where everyone is fighting for that chick-en.  And so if you fail to get that chick-en, you need to have that self-confidence to still pick up your thick head and walk out proud of either being “friend-zoned” or just ditched for life!

Then there are those times when we are constantly bombarded with those pictures of lovely packed gifts in the newspapers and magazines.
However, we all should keep in mind those “lovely packed gifts” are something which you would never get, and you would surely end up with something you have never seen, thought or predicted of before!

So beware of those facial expression you are going to give out, start working on your
“I am so happy to see your idiotic, insane, dumb, foolish, stupid gift!” expression.

Now such things surely lead up to moments of “Now What”! There, there do you see what fatal thing you are doing? You are creating a volcano of expectations, which might erupt into – an agonizing lava. This might lead you in losing all those hearty emotions and harmonious health.

& Finally the Don’ts….

Don’t let yourself into an unstable equilibrium, which might result into symptoms of distress and depression.
Don’t step into the non-returnable realistic world!
Don’t let yourself fall into fantasies which make you imagine things which result in turmoil’s when things don’t happen the way you expect them to. You can easily fall into an emotional mud and sink into it with no one out there to help you out.
Don’t confuse yourself into these marketing schemes, peer pressure, social paradigm and the desire to show off your valentine’s day on Facebook.

It is okay to sit at home in your pyjamas and have popcorn because it becomes quite fatal to go through the “Arrhytmitistist” moments!

So Just Relax Those Muscles…

& Pull Out That Gorgeous Smile ..

Fumbling Words

At the most prestigious times of your life, you end up forgetting that one word which just ruins your whole presentation,

Or you just forgot that one sentence,

Or you are just unable to remember that “one word” and then you replace it with some thing else, realizing you just messed it whole up, with a “fumblish tone”!

Totally Messed Up!

The feeling of anxiety is what we all suffer from the most. And some of us get so entangled in this course of anxiety, that we end up in an extreme situations of fumbling or jumbling up with our words, with the worse of becoming totally forgetful or tong-tied! 

It is important that we relax before such situations, rehearse what you have to say, take deep breaths, have a sip of water, calm your jaw and shoulder muscles and most of all relax your hands. 

All of this can be a sign of some what  social anxiety, nervousness or stress. Simultaneously low-esteem, negative self-thoughts and also self-depreciating thoughts can lead to such anxieties. 

However, one of my friends she shared a brilliant way of getting to relax your nerves. She taught me a Dua, which spiritually helps in trying to ease hardships and bringing the best out of you! You can recite it if  before speeches, interviews, meetings, social phobia, anxiety, shyness and any situation which requires the best of your speech!

 

The Prayer of Prophet Musa (Quran 20:25-28; Surat Taha)

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رَبِّ اشْرَحْ لِي صَدْرِي (25) وَيَسِّرْ لِي أَمْرِي (26) وَاحْلُلْ عُقْدَةً مِنْ لِسَانِي (27) يَفْقَهُوا قَوْلِي (28

Oh my Lord! Open my chest [i.e. remove fear from it, or fill it with Your Light]. And ease my task for me. Remove the impediment from my speech so that they may understand what I say.

May Allah Help Us, In All Good And Bad Situations Of Life!

 

 

The 2014 New Year!

A constant hype of fireworks all around the world. Scores of people gather around to watch them. And one of them was me! Obviously trying to get the best pictures of the fireworks was one of my main aims. However, I was not able to do that sadly! Reason – people sitting around my tripod kept hitting and moving it!

Video – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=31Dkq2CYvo4

So finally when the fireworks started at the Burj Khalifa at 12-midnight, I was left no choice but to end up turning the movie mode on and i sulked on the ground. But that was when suddenly I noticed that people were not really looking at the fireworks but in reality had their eyes glued on their cellphones to actually see if they were making a good movie out of it!

That was when I remembered an article in which I read about-“Photo-taking impairment effect”.

Fireworks and mobiles!

Fireworks and mobiles!

That means if we take a photo of something we’re less likely to remember it than if we’d looked at it with our eyes. “When people rely on technology to remember for them,” argued psychologist Linda Henkel of Fairfield University in Connecticut, “counting on the camera to record the event and thus not needing to attend to it fully themselves – it can have a negative impact on how well they remember their experiences.” – http://www.theguardian.com/artanddesign/2013/dec/13/death-of-photography-camera-phones

So just to get a realistic feel out of it. I decided to take a few pictures (though they came blur) to see if this really is true!

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And I actually noticed that I did not really enjoy the Burj Khalifa fireworks when compared with the fireworks of Palm Jumeirah! And the reason was? I had switched off my camera, and stood besides my mom, and absorbed the moment. It was surely memorable! I can still feel the sudden “Boom” of the fireworks going in the sky.

Though I could not see much, because of too many people crowded in front of me, with their arms sticking out and another few inches of their mobiles sticking out. But it was the screams of joy and the sparks of colors which made it so different. Seeing the sky lit up with different color – red, green, yellow, orange and golden was wonderful. It was timed perfectly with the best mixture of colors. Though the fireworks started with a delay of 20 minutes, which had caused a lot of ciaos already. Many of us had no idea of what had happened. We thought it was over, so we packed our stuff and started to move out, and suddenly the crackles lit the sky, and the whole world at the beach ran towards the scene, leaving all their belongings! It was a scene!

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However, I had to on my camera because I could not resist to take a picture of a wonderful couple, who did not bother to take their cameras or mobile phones out but instead just held on to each other and watched the fireworks.

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And then I noticed another lady, trying her best to capture the moment..

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Finally, I just switched my camera off and enjoyed! <3